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Essential Reading
How to get your child to eat their veggies
Sep 19, 2017
How to get your child to eat their veggies
Sep 19, 2017
Sep 19, 2017
Progress, not perfection...
Jan 3, 2017
Progress, not perfection...
Jan 3, 2017
Jan 3, 2017
Making the grown-ups happy
Dec 1, 2016
Making the grown-ups happy
Dec 1, 2016
Dec 1, 2016
Picky eating and temperament
Nov 13, 2016
Picky eating and temperament
Nov 13, 2016
Nov 13, 2016
Grazing part 2: "The Kitchen is Closed!"
Sep 29, 2016
Grazing part 2: "The Kitchen is Closed!"
Sep 29, 2016
Sep 29, 2016
Picky eating: a single parent's guide
Sep 20, 2016
Picky eating: a single parent's guide
Sep 20, 2016
Sep 20, 2016
Aug 14, 2016
"Help! My two year old won't sit at the table"
Aug 14, 2016
Aug 14, 2016
The social benefits of meals 'Family Style'
Aug 8, 2016
The social benefits of meals 'Family Style'
Aug 8, 2016
Aug 8, 2016
The Golden Twenty Minutes: pre-meal preparation for your picky eater
Jul 18, 2016
The Golden Twenty Minutes: pre-meal preparation for your picky eater
Jul 18, 2016
Jul 18, 2016
How to help your picky eater when you've run out of ideas.
Jun 24, 2016
How to help your picky eater when you've run out of ideas.
Jun 24, 2016
Jun 24, 2016

Is anxiety behind your child's eating problems?

April 19, 2016

There are many causes of picky (or selective) eating, ranging from it being a 'just a phase' that need not be a major concern, to a result of complex psychiatric issues needing long term specialist support and medical intervention. Between these two extremes, there are so many other factors which can affect a child's relationship with food. These include parenting approaches, how a child responds to sensory stimuli, personality and temperament. However, when problems are worrisome enough to lead parents to come to me for help, one of the key characteristics (which I see over and over again) is anxiety. 

In my experience, children who are anxious at meals can also be anxious in other contexts. They are often naturally cautious and unsure about new experiences. Very anxious children often seem more emotionally and physically sensitive than their peers, too. looking into picky eating found that anxiety, temperament and sensory sensitivity have been found to be interconnected.  We all experience sense data differently, and for some children sensory processing can be a huge challenge. It also makes sense to me that a child who clings to familiarity would be wary of new foods. And children who are emotionally sensitive may be more affected by social pressure to eat, or pressure from the adults around them. There is often more than one factor at play when it comes to very picky eating, and anxiety is usually a part of the picture.

at Duke University found that levels of anxiety were significantly higher in children who are selective eaters.  So is this about cause or effect? One of the researchers explained ( in an interview for healthline)  that this is not something they are ready to answer yet as they did not know quite enough to claim either that eating issues made anxiety worse, or that anxiety caused eating issues. 

"We don't know if it's cause and effect. We're relatively certain there's a link" (Dr William Copeland, Duke University)

Older research (Harris & Booth, 1992) suggests that eating problems may be both caused by and cause anxiety, in a kind of vicious cycle. 

When we experience anxiety, although it is an emotion, there are lots of things going on in our bodies making anxiety a very physical experience.  Our hearts beats faster, our mouths go dry, we get butterflies in our stomach.  These sensations are caused by the chemical processes associated with anxiety and they interrupt appetite. This makes sense if we consider that by sending us into anxiety mode, our bodies are preparing to run or fight; when you're escaping danger, having something to eat is the last thing your body wants. Imagine if mealtimes send your child into a 'fight or flight ' anxious state. Eating will be really hard for them.

I help parents manage this by giving them lots of tools and techniques to use. Most parents find that not only do these techniques help with food-related anxiety, they also help children more generally; as children grow in confidence and resilience, this spills over into other areas of life. Equally, as a child becomes less anxious at the table and learns to tolerate unfamiliar foods, this teaches them that going out of their comfort zone may not be catastrophic in other areas.  

To help your child become less anxious in response to food, the first step is empathy. It can be hard to imagine why your little one gets into such a state at the thought of eating a small piece of carrot...  but anxiety is very real; trying to imagine meals from your child's perspective lays the foundation for supporting them. The next step is to skill your child up - to equip them to manage their anxiety and do everything you can to create an environment that is as un-anxiety-provoking as possible. With love and patience, you can make an enormous difference. 

If you think that anxiety might be contributing to your child's picky eating, I have created for you, which will help you think more about your child's relationship with food. 

 

 

 

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